I read a great book. The main message was that when you can't decide what to do next, do the next wise thing. Sorry if the capital letters offended you. They weren't meant to. Anyway, that is the question I ask myself everytime I am faced with a difficult choice. What is the next wise thing. I don't respond rashly. I think it over.
I think you probably know what is best for your situation and what is going to be the best thing for your son in this difficult time. You are a smart lady. You'll figure it out. I have faith in you.