Hi dorton, When my son came out of rehab he did live with us. He did meetings for 90 days and decided that was enough for him. He moved out after a few months here and did relapse once or twice but for now he's super clean. From what I see he is working hard, paying bills and is responsible. My husband and I have told him that we will no longer pay any of his bills and if he chooses drugs again he won't be in our daily lives....he will be in my heart forever but I can't go through the pain any longer. You have to do whats good for your family, stick to rules and pray he finds his way. My son is so much happier now and at least once a week tells us how sorry and stupid he was.....I pray things work out for you cause the worrying and pain is sometimes just too much to bear... Big hugs, Bonnie