Originally Posted by
Tazman53 
cams in reality the suggestion at least in AA is no NEW relationships in the first year and if one really wants to get down to the nitty gritty of the suggestion in AA the real suggestion is no MAJOR life changes in the first year.
Actually, Taz, AA itself or the Big Book makes no opinion at all about this. I understand that you are simplifying, and I agree that it's pretty good advice not to shake things up if you don't have to. But let me throw out another reason beyond protecting fragile early sobriety.
What a world of difference in my relationships with others after taking all of AA's 12 steps and having a spiritual awakening. AA taught me how to actually love another person. Unconditionally. And I simply had no idea (although I thought I knew) what that was until I experienced it.