Originally Posted by
Rob B 
... many of you have been loving him to death for the last year and yet he drank.
I said this exact same thing to a friend of mine that has been in and out of AA for the last couple of years. Comes back in to the rooms, everyone gathers around with the hugs and support, nobody offers a solution. I just told him, 'don't let these people love you death.' These people are well intentioned, and do express love in their own way. But phrases like 'keep coming back' and 'just don't drink today' will not keep an alcoholic sober. What is needed is a solution born out of success with staying sober.