Originally Posted by ananda

I see alot of things called "tough love" that seem to have very little to do with love or caring or service or help. I don't think love really come in tough or gentle...it's just love same as caring, service or help. (from what i have seen around me of course)

Most of all I have expereinced and watched something called control...that people mascarade as tough love. That one truly amazes me when i see it in others and even more when i see it in myself. It seems to trigger the worst of sickness in myself and others...those on both ends of the "tough love/control dynamics. I recently induldged in some of this, and although it probably did hurt the person i was "helping" what amazed me was the profound sickness that came up in me from induldging in "helping someone see my truth".

This is not aimed at any person ... this post is about what i've been thinking about lately and the recent posts here sorta made me think about it...

Thanks for letting me sort that out on paper.