Yup, putting it in financial terms like you ahve lays out some of the real consequences of choosing to mary or staying with and A. Perhaps such a look will help some other person realize that the chocie to stay married has some very real costs beyond the emotional ones.
I know my credit record took a huge hit and I have debts I would not have otherwise had. But choices all have consequences, good and bad.
I ahve come to prefer looking at the good consequences of my bad choice to marry the man. At least I have finally dealt with my own issues that led me to that bad choice.