A couple repairing their relationship after an affair have a chance if both are SOBER, honest, open and willing.
Nyte, if he's not sober, you're all alone. We all are, with active addicts.
I believe God wants us to live authentic lives. For myself, I cannot and will not tolerate a dishonest situation. For myself, no more pretense. I want the outer life and the inner life to line up.
Your children have that sixth sense children always have....and they have surely sensed the incongruity in their parents' relationship... that words and actions were not matching up. Always a dark confusing cloud in the home.
Now you are living your truth and your bottom line values. So hold your head high. No shame or guilt. This is called: maturity.