Knowing the truth is very important when it comes to infidelity, since our health is at risk.
Playing detective can be obsessive and insane when carried out in extreme emotionalism, or it can be a part of critical thinking as we become fact-seeking realists, when there is something vitally important to know.
It was time for you to know the truth, nyte, and it was God's decision for you to know it now, rather than months ago when you were emotional about Dakota's tests and fragile and too easily crumpled.
People who cheat are so utterly selfish. Given that A's operate on selfish-autopilot when in their disease, infidelity seems almost inevitable, if they have half a chance.
And then, there are the ones who get sober and cheat anyway. Nothing really changed.
So glad you are free, nyte.
You are free on many levels, sweetie.