I really thought life was finally smiling on me. I was the happiest I had ever been. My children are all doing well, I have a beautiful grandson and the man I have been waiting for my whole life. We had even taken the next step in our realationship and bought our first house together in October and it is more then I'd ever dreamed it would be. Boy, we had it all and it was good. So it was wonderful boyfriend, my 22 year old daughter (college) and myself living happily.....
Then it happened we got the call that my boyfriends brother was in trouble again with another probation violation from his several DWI's. We went to is house to find some information for him and realized that his brother was going to loose his house in a few days on the court house steps because he had not been making his payments we also learned of several other court dates coming up... We bailed him out, he lost his home and he moved in with us on house arrest the day after Christmas.
He had to blow in this machine twice a day to check if he was drinking and he did really well. He always passed and even though he is filthy and disrespectful I was glad that he was making an effort and really thought we were helping. He finished his House Arrest and I even offered to take him to dinner to celebrate...
I came home the day after his completion to find my daughter and him on the porch... He was really trashed and she was trying to stop him from leaving. It was horrible...We all went inside and he went to his room only to go missing a few hours later. DRIVING....He has now been drunk for a month....
He has made inappropriate remarks and gestures to my daughter... When I told my boyfreind he did nothing and defended him...When I told my girlfriend and she tried to help by talking to him he threatened me with black mail by telling my boyfriend about things we had talked about none of which sceret between my boyfriend and I in the first place and he said "He was not afraid to use a pool cue on me." Creep..... I went right to my boyfriend and told him everything and he did nothing and in fact was he mad at my girlfriend for trying to help and does not want me to hang out with her anymore. (She use to date his brother before he was a drinker.)
He has ruined the room we let him stay in and it will totally have to be re-done. (He smells really bad and I think he may have even pissed in the room.) He has burned holes in my carpet and coffee table. He becomes very rude and a know it all when he get pass a certain point (he always thinks and claims to be better then every one.) I pretty much have to stay in my room.
I have had it out with him only to get talked to by my boyfriend later about how we have to try to set an example and really I should try to be more caring...blah..blah...blah....
I know that my boyfriend loves his brother and the fact that their mother committed suicide infront of them when they were 12 and 10 years old does not help matters. My boyfriend feels like he has to take care of him being the eldest. But enough is enough....He really is not helping him and I do not want to deal with it.... I had a alcoholic step dad that died from his addiction.
No one in the has a clue all the trouble his brother has been in and that he has even loss his house. My boyfriend has told his daughter not to tell grandpa and grandma anything....He has totally lied and hid everything for his brother.
I have been in love with this man for 7 years and it has been the best relationship I have ever had. We have acomplished great things together and have been a good team. I now feel like a big change has taken place and his brother and his addiction is to blame. I do not feel I can trust my partner any longer. I feel like I really do not have a home... I am hurt and depressed... I can not even sleep without having nightmares about this jerk... I am lost....
What can I do???? Please any advise.....
