((CoDie)) It has been a totally new concept for me too. I just thought it was so selfish to not feel responsible for others. But the truth is we are not responsible for others happiness, they are. We are responsible for our own. I thought that I couldn't be happy and content till everyone else is, but that doesn't seem to be happening so I better start making myself happy. Life is too darn short!!!! Have you got the book Codependency no More by Melodie Beattie, its has been very helpful to me..