I was the wife who resented the fact that my husband was an ugly drunk. I always knew HE had to quit, but I wouldn't have dreamed of quitting to support him after all of the crud he put me through drunk.
He and I are separated now (sort of).
One night my drinking ended horribly, and I quit for me. A week past, he saw I was serious, and he hasn't had a drink since. . .
Focus on yourself, get sober, and lots of wonderful things are possible