Hi Cath,
I think there's probably hundreds of people here who know exactly what you're feeling.
Sometimes it turns out not to be the alcohol at all. Sometimes they're just not good people.
And even if they once seemed good, people keep changing throughout their lives. Sometimes they have just changed into something that's no longer good for us.
I am so glad you're here, and I hope you can plug yourself back in to your other support systems as well - that jolt of compassion and wisdom right in the solar plexus will make all the difference in the world.
You can't change him. But that doesn't mean the end of your happiness. As my dear friend Desert Eyes' signature line says, "Sunsets are not endings. If I have enough faith, they are beginnings."
Hugs to you to help you through this new beginning :ghug3