Welcome to SR poyber!
sorry that you and your wife are going through this.
Please check out our Friends and Family boards
Friends and Family of Alcoholics - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information
And feel free to post anywhere in our forums. There are stickies at the top of each forum
which are filled with a wealth of information.
Al Anon also is a great support outside of the internet.
We are here for you and glad that you have joined our community!
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