anewfather,
As an alcoholic, I can only speak from my experience, but I had to hit a bottom.
My bottom came in a jail cell, after crashing my car into a fence with my 8 year old daughter in the backseat.
I would not want that to be her bottom.
Maybe her bottom is going to have to come with her losing her child. I hope not.
There is really nothing you can do except to take care of your son and yourself. You owe that to him and to yourself.