anewfather

I am new to this forum but have visited a few times over the last year just to find out some information and read about others in my situation.

Not really to sure where to begin, but my wife who I love very much and is my best friend has a very severe drinking problem and I'm not sure what to do any more as it has gotten very bad over the last year. We live in Canada and although there are resources in our area, waiting lists and other sorted issues seem to be preventing her from getting the help she needs.

She suffers from anxienty and depression (still waiting for medication that works although numerous trials have failed and she is on a waiting list for a new doc) and we have a new little boy only 17 months old and is a bundle of action and a handful. It is my first, and her second and I work from home so we are together 24/7.

When we met she said she was a happy stay at home Mom that got things done and seemed okay. When we found out she was pregnant we were overjoyed and planned wedding, new home, etc in a very short time period and everything seemed okay.

It went downhill when we moved in together, she started drinking a lot and nothing was getting done. My work day from home was always interupted because she was unable to do anything. No trips to the store, no meals, no cleaning around, nothing. She hardly left the house unless it was to go to the liquor store or to buy cigarettes.

Now that I read what I am writing everybody probably thinks I'm a total idiot but after a long heart to heart we decided to move somewhere else and start over. It didn't work, the drinking continued.

It was so bad that my work product suffered and I was fired from my job and after a binge night of mixing her meds and then calling 911, I was arrested for domestic and taken away. She called her parents, friends etc and I was released on bail and had to go through the whole trial process further screwing up my ability to work (security clearance needed and pending criminal charge prevents that from passing) I stayed with my best friend during this time while she took care of my son. Although it was forbidden that we talk we actually did and she told me time and again that she was never going to touch the booze anymore and that when the ordeal was over that we could move forward and that she would be a better mother and wife and she apologized for calling the police and falsely accusing me of a crime. The whole thing took about 2 months, the charges were dropped entirely because my wife admitted she mixed her meds with alcohol and got angry with me and had a doctors note that decribed her condition, but I came back in the end to a different woman, the woman I met originally.

Then the drinking started again, small at first but then more and more to the point we are at now. Drinking from morning to night and not making any effort to try to get help because "everything fails".

Is there anybody else out there is a similar situation or is there some resource I haven't thought of? I need to get things on track for my family, I have to find a new job, but can't trust even going to a job interview without fear my wife will be too drunk to take care of our son, let alone work a normal job that doesn't involve me being here as "back-up" for even a simple diaper change.

Please no flaming, I'm not a wife abuser in any way...I can't raise a hand to anything and have not a violent bone in my body. In fact I consider it the most disgusting act of all, hurting someone you love. I just need some possibly helpful advice because I am considering taking my son and running but I'm not sure that is the right thing to do until I have tried everything possible.

Sorry for the venting but there was yet again another issue tonight and my wife is now passed out and I needed to say something and get my side off my chest.