In the solution instead of part of the problem. Why is that so hard to achieve? It took me forever to get that I was the problem.
I have someone very close to me that can't see that they are the part of the problem. She is so full of negativity and is filled with anger and worse case scenarios. She can not speak in a normal tone. She is always screeching and yelling and her behavior is irrational and unacceptable. She has such a need to be right that anyone who disagrees with her, she will eventually eliminate from her life. That is so sad that the need to be right eventually separates you from friends and family. What a concept, always right, but alone. That is how warped our minds become after drenching it with alcohol.