Originally Posted by
blessed4x 
She asked me "When he does these things or says nice things to you at these times does it move your heart?" It was a lightbulb moment for me.
Thank you for sharing this. I did not realize I was still harboring guilt from my recent divorce...feeling I didn't do enough and descending back into codependent insanity. But your share helped me see that, NO, his responses to me did not move my heart. I recently came across some letters he wrote me in 2006 (after my discovery of his affair) and with the gift of time and lots of work on myself, I can now see the letters for what they were....manipulations. But, I remember at the time my heart was not moved. My inner voice had been trying to guide and protect me all along.
Thankyou for reminding me!