Originally Posted by
blessed4x 
It is in that final phase where I start to doubt myself and wonder if he really is trying and I am wrong. She asked me "When he does these things or says nice things to you at these times does it move your heart?" It was a lightbulb moment for me. It was so obvious that the answer is no.
Thank you for sharing that. It's hard to admit, but I feel the same way.
That thought can make us stronger when we want to embrace the little itty bit of affection or niceness they try to show. I know I always want to embrace any display of kindness or love my ABF shows because I know he won't apologize. Admitting that his acts don't move me is another form of empowerment!
RTH