Originally Posted by
blessed4x 
It is in that final phase where I start to doubt myself and wonder if he really is trying and I am wrong. She asked me "When he does these things or says nice things to you at these times does it move your heart?" It was a lightbulb moment for me. It was so obvious that the answer is no.
Thank you for sharing that. It's hard to admit, but I feel the same way.
That kind of honesty can make us stronger when we are feeling weak and want to embrace the little itty bit of affection or niceness they try to show. I know I always want to embrace any appearance of kindness or love since he won't apologize. But to be able to admit to myself that his acts don't move me...now that's pretty empowering.
RTH