Originally Posted by
timetogo 
Now, I'm not stupid -- you just don't leave a 30 year relationship and be hooked up 3 weeks after that -- obviously it was going on before.
I wouldn't say this is true. When you are dealing with at least 1 - and probably 2 sick individuals, anything is possible nowadays.
The important thing is to remember he is trying to get to you, so don't let him. Don't let him lie rent free in your head. Do what is right for you and your kids, they will appreciate it down the road if not immediately.