Originally Posted by anvilhead

3 week drug binge, in rehab since last Thursday (thurs, fri, sat, sun, mon) for all of five days and already begging you to "give him a chance" and let him come home and all will be well.

ONLY cuz you asked for advice, here goes....IF he is truly a changed man, than your entire relationship will change. so ending the EXISTING relationship/marriage in a sense wipes that slate clean - AND offers you protection against the errors of HIS ways. THEN he can set about becoming a fully recovered actualized individual, and prove thru his ACTIONS whether he is a worthy partner, and a good and deserving dad.

recovery takes a life time. he's got his work cut out for him, REGARDLESS OF WHAT YOU DO. he has to own his stuff, rebuild his life, and that is gonna take a lot of time and dedication. and damn hard work. you and the kids aren't moving to Mars, so this isn't now or never stuff as far as "his chance" - he screwed up, BIG TIME. he wanted to play with the big boys and go off and live the life of a dope fiend on a spinner. and this is what you get when you make that choice and you have a wife and kids at home. sorry pal. ya use, ya lose........