Thanks so much for posting. I know how you feel. I won't say that drinking will make these your situation WORSE, but it certainly will help them remain
unchanged.
You used to numb yourself out with alcohol to avoid these bad feelings, now you're not drinking and everything is very real right now.
I have a very toxic sister myself who really threatens my sobriety and sanity when I'm around her and so I had to cut off all ties with her. I
highly recommend this.
It sounds like your sister is really infringing on your well-being and I would recommend cut her off and like others have said don't answer any more emails or phone calls for awhile.
Thanks for posting and I look forward to seeing you around some more!
Hang around here and you will find the kind of family that you deserve.