Anvil - you've been hot lately!
Brownimr - Hang in there buddy. Your AW is a sick sick person to treat you the way she has. Cut off the dead weight and move on. You sound like a very loving guy and you probably have alot to offer somebody but take care of you right now okay? Give yourself time to process this and go to meetings or counseling to work out your very obvious raw emotions.
Try to stay busy and not think about it and continue to let those calls go to VM (good for you) but just delete them instead of listening to the "verbal vomit" that's coming out of AW. Why keep twisting the knife in your own gut?