you said he has people trying to help him so i think you need to try and let go of the situation and I can't see anywhere that signfies you fouscing on yourself and he needs to stand up to his own responsiblities. is it not a form of co-depenancey when even though he has others helping he still relys on you to help him after you telling him you need to foucse on youself? does that not make him somewhat selfish?? we all need help in life but there's only so much one can do and if he is starting on a bad number all i can sugest is that you be carefull not to be pulled down with him...emotions are very hard to control and can make you blind and do things against your will along the way...rules are there for a reason other wise whats the point 'cause you would never learn anything or take responablities for you actions...