Barbara52

You can choose to change what you are. I grew up with an abusive alcoholic father and a neglectful alcoholic mother, a double winner. Was this a big influence on how I turned out? You bet ya! Until I finally decided to deal with all those issues. Unfortunately, I was in my 50s and dealing with the effects of having basically married my father at the age of 48 before I decided to stop the patterns and behaviors I had learned growing up.

I am what I am thanks to therapy and hard work. I am now a healthy woman with self respect and self love.

You can deal with your issues and stop engaging in self destructive behavior if you want to.