Callie -
"MyJoey" is so right. I think you're going to get there sooner than you think. I was dragged through h*ll and back and when I came here....literally within a day, I was able to read, receive feed back, and I consulted an attorney for divorce.
It was that mind changing for me. I filed. I'm in the process of waiting 20 days for an "Answer" and then proceedings. It doesn't look like he can or will respond. March 3rd I will be divorced.
I came here everyday to check up and read and gain support. I've decided in the 3 years leading up to this, had I never found this site, there IS ABSOLUTELY NO WAY I would've filed. I was under complete control.
The fog has lifted.
Hang in there girl. I love you!