Hi,
If he hasnt had a drink since he got home, I would give him all the encouragement he needs, stubborn or not. You may be able to get one of the counsellors to call him.
If hes home with a bad back, he may start the pity party again. I for sure know that you cant change an addict and you will always hear. 'they have to do it on their own'
In this instance though, I'd talk to him about it. Can he get sponsor/counsellor home visits.
Hugs JJ