Hey Rozied,
I can sympathize with your worrying, I do it too, from time to time, cause my oldest AS still isn't living his life like I want him to! (just kidding) And NOW bringing a baby into the mix, good grief, if I forget about my recovery, I could worry myself insane!
Now here's the good part. We can talk to ourselves, pull out a couple of books, Like "Courage to Change" One Day At A Time" or even Melody Beatties, "Codependent No more" and find help for us, and get us back on track.
Heck there's nothing wrong with concern, but heck Diane, if you and I left this world tomorrow, both of our As's would carry on with life just fine without us.
Miracles happen.
Prayers for your son........