hi! I have been reading and posting here for 4 years. I have been with AH for 7 years- all have been a struggle with alcohol and drugs- Mine has been to rehab 3 times now- I know that hopeful feeling you get when they are doing well in rehab and when they come home and are diligently attending AA. I also know the problem of relapse- the slowly slacking off of meetings ect. Know this- you can't make him want to go to AA- (I tried) I was encouraging and offered rides to meetings, nothing worked. His longest stint sober was 16 monthes. In that time I was convinced that he would never go back to drinking- I got pregnant- he started drinking when I was 8 months pregnant- after 16months sober. He was drunk in the room during my c- section. I know what has happened in my relationship- as far as relapse.
Mabye your AH will stay with the program- but whether he does or not- you can't "help" him.
By the way- keep coming back here- I think this forum has kept me sane.