(((((KJ)))))
Please talk with your sponsor about this. Then, I am afraid you are going to have to just say NO. NO do not call me. NO do not hug me. NO NO NO.
Are you being mean. NO. You are enforcing YOUR BOUNDARIES. He is trying to control you, one way or another. Have your sponsor and other women by your side, especially some real 'old NA Nazi types' rofl and he will get the message real quick. Also, in NA, as in AA, your sponsor, will talk to some of the men (with long time sobriety) that she knows in NA, if you ask her to, and they will set him straight. He will get the message.
If you put the word out, have faith, he will NO LONGER bother you. This is now bordering on 'stalking' and you DO NOT have to tolerate it one minute more.
Hope that helps a teeny bit.
Love and hugs,