I am so glad you have figured this out in a way that works for you!!!
I have met so many people who get hung-up or offended by what they they can only perceive as the religiosity of the concept of a HP... often these people abandon AlAnon because of it - and I feel sad that they miss out on the bigger picture - on the concept - because they get so hung up on insisting that having an HP means bowing to some religious idea.
I was in so much pain when I got into AlAnon I just followed directions. And the first time I asked someone the typical questions about HP they answered me with a no BS: "Your HP can be anything- God, the North wind, your cat! Just get the concept - don't get hung up thinking of HP as a reflection on you!! It's just supposed to be the person/place/thing of letting go!!" So my HP was my cat for a while!!!
I followed directions. It worked.
peace & good on you!!
b