Originally Posted by
isitme 
Is it selfish to ask him to wait around for the time to be right, until I feel better?
Perfect example. It is not selfish of you that you don't trust him. That is how you feel.
Expecting him to do what you wish based on your feelings is selfish.
So, you make your choices based on the fact that you don't trust him. (Perfectly reasonable) But, you must then be prepared for him to make his choices, which you cannot control.
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