spikedaball-that hour at a time concept has really worked for me.
I'm in the process of selling my house and there's people coming to see it tonight. I'm proud of myself as I cleaned this place within an inch of its life just taking a break for a bite to eat.
As each hour passed, and things got done I realized all of the time I wasted before, consumed with worry and stress over ABF. Now, it's more time for me - time for a bath and a book. Previously, I'd be back and forth checking for messages or calls. The call will come later on and I have a journal of things that happened here and we talk about our days.
I wish you and your wife the best as you journey toward recovery.