Thanks for all the replies and great suggestions.!!
I guess I'm just frustrated/aggravated by it all. I went to an AlAnon meeting today. Their topic of discussion today dealt with isolating yourself from the alcoholic. They talked about being there to let the alcoholic know your care about them but yet still keeping your distance and living your own life. I guess that's what you all are saying. Use the time I have now to get back to the type of life that I (we) had before. THe meeting also left me depressed. Several members talked about how their loved alcoholic have been to rehab, sometimes more than once, and yet the alcoholic went back to their drinking ways, just like LarryAtl stated about his situation. It's depressing! Well, I guess I better get busy....there's laundry to do!!