My A is in recovery and has been for two years. If I could get in a time machine and go back to myself when he got back into AA and started working the steps I would encourage myself to seek help for me.
I didn't then. I thought I was ok. I thought he was the only one with the problem. It has taken a year of me shutting down my emotions and getting to MY rock bottom to realise I needed recovery too.
Best wishes..x