Originally Posted by
spikedaball 
The second one recently told her, in my presence, that he couldn't see her anymore because she wouldn't stop drinking and wouldn't do the things he was suggesting.
Sounds like a wise therapist. If the A doesn't want to change, it doesn't happen.
Originally Posted by
spikedaball I've been to AlAnon meetings with two different groups. I didn't find them very useful.
AlAnon is not for everyone. I have never been to a meeting, had never felt the urge even. I have found my road to a healthier me through this site, lots of reading, honest self examination and some individual therapy.
Originally Posted by
spikedaball So, now I'm waiting to see if my wife will agree to inpatient treatment.
How long are you willing to put your life on hold waiting for her to do something? What if she doesn't go? What will you do then?