Since this seems to be turning into a thread about my situation I'll add some more comments. THanks for everyone's thoughts. I've been to counselors, both on my own and to my wife's. My wife has seen two different counselors. One she stopped seeing because she didn't like him. The second one recently told her, in my presence, that he couldn't see her anymore because she wouldn't stop drinking and wouldn't do the things he was suggesting. He told her that her last option was an inpatient treatment facility. He told me that I should leave because my wife, with me living with her, was committing "public" suicide. I've been to AlAnon meetings with two different groups. I didn't find them very useful. I don't like the concept of sitting and listening to what others have done over the past week and not be able to ask a question or ask for advice. I also did not like the idea that you could only speak one time and that was it. I think this site has been much more valuable since you get to see what is happening to others and also to have a discussion about individual situations.
So, now I'm waiting to see if my wife will agree to inpatient treatment.
Thanks to everyone!