Sally,
Your honesty was appreciated.
I have been married for 22 years and now taking my first steps to move on from this madness. You can't help but reflect on the good times shared because you know that good man is still inside the alcoholic. Yet the choice is his to change...or not. I can only imagine what I may feel when it's all said and done, but your post gave me a glimps of the run of emotions that could follow.
I wish peace and happiness for you and your children.