I can't kick her out....no where for her to go.
Actually that is NOT YOUR PROBLEM. I was kicked out at 33 1/2 years old. NO CONTACT. If I called, the phone was hung up. If I came to the door, it was shut in my face, and if I had attempted to steal any more from them they would have called the cops.
It took me another 2 1/2 years to find recovery and the last year and a half I lived on the streets.....................................and I came from Upper Middle Class. That was almost 28 years ago now. I can tell you that the BEST THING my family ever did for me was to KICK ME OUT!
You are not obligated to put up with her DISRESPECT of you and your home. Maybe some TOUGH CONSEQUENCES for her actions will bring her closer to recovery quicker. Salvation Army has a great program and it's free.
I know you already do or will feel guilty about all of this. IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT!
She has done this to herself. The only one you can help is YOURSELF.
Please find some AlAnon meetings for you. They really can help tremendously.
J M H O
Love and hugs,