choices, respect, boundaries... all valid points.
What choices do I have? Leave? I made a commitment, a vow, "in sickness and in health". Leave the house that I have taken care of, maintained, improved? Leave the dogs with her? She can't take care of herself. I've had friends offer rooms but without the dogs. I can't afford to pay a mortgage and rent. I can't kick her out....no where for her to go. She's lost her friends and family is a long way away.
Boundaries? What good are boundaries to someone who has lost touch with realty? A person who can't remember events; Who doesn't care about walking around in public with stained clothes?
Respect? Again, how can I expect respect for me, for the house, when she doesn't respect herself?
I know, nothing but excuses on my part. But I know that somewhere deep down inside her is the person I married, the caring, thoughtful, fun person. Or maybe I don't do something because I'm just enjoying the suffering.