MICRZY? NOURNOT!
Welcome to SR!
I just wanted to say that my STBXAH's personal style of drinking started out VERY much like what you have described:
good job and no violence,
lots of "I've decided not to drink x" - then, days later, coming home with a bottle of x,
isolating and drinking alone,
constant redirection (the shampoo comparison is classic)
All of this combined to make me doubt my sanity and my intuition. But, today, only 1.5 years later - there is absolutely no doubt as to my husband's problems with alcohol.
I don't know if your husband will continue down the path of addiction, but I have found a great deal of strength, hope, and answers by sticking around on SR, attending AlAnon, and seeing a personal counselor.
It was very hard for me to watch someone drink so unhealthily - it was absolutely necessary for me to accept the fact that I had NO CONTROL over his choices so that I could stop focusing on what I could do to help him and start focusing on what I could do to help myself.
Keep posting!
-TC