I am sure that she sees I have a problem. I have discussed my drinking with her before, with the more cowardly route of "I have to cut down, no more binge drinking after hockey/softball" I went that route. She will have a glass of wine, or go to a friends house for "Girl's Night" when 3-4 of her friends will drink a bottle of wine. I don't drink with her, as I easily out-pace her, and thus makes my problem drinking more obvious, and guilt-laden for me.