Oh Lord I am so very thankful for this forum & all of the great people in it. Thank you so much again, I know you are right & I have nothing to feel bad about. As it is Jim & I and my son are raising the boys without any help from her then she has the nerve to go out & get herself addicted to heroin then want help from us. Her dad is a heroin addict. I took her in when she was dating Chris to get her out of that environment, then she goes& gets addicted to the very same thing.
Its just awful. Our family had bent over backwards to help my son & her when they were together. Then she started going out on my son & not coming home for days or even weeks on end & when my son finally had enough he kept his boys. She has not paid a penny of support since they broke up & once in a while she buys them clothes or toys but nothing on a steady basis.
I don't know why I even feel bad after all we have done to help her in the past.