Originally Posted by
justaboutus 
I want him to get a job because I want him to live up to his promises. He’s been promising to get full time steady employment for seven years now and all I get is excuses and him telling me to “be patient” (among a mountain of other manipulative tactics).
Seven years of talk with no action to back it up? Seems to me you have been patient for a long time, maybe too long?
I wanted my H to live up to his promises, too. I wanted him to step up to the plate and be the husband and father I knew he could be. I wanted him to *fill in the blank.* When everything I wanted was *something* from him, I was miserable. I had to start looking at what I wanted *from me.*
What can
you do that will make your life more the way you want it to be? Cause if you continue to look to him to make you happy, you will likely continue to be disappointed and miserable.
L