"I will not support you while you drink and refuse to work, if you do not contribute your share to the household expenses, I will find a place to live on my own where my only expenses will be mine."
I've already moved out due to his refusal to work.
I actually had started making ultimatums to him regarding his employment. I started making demands and then backed off and said I was wrong, I didn’t NEED him to do anything. Then stated I didn’t want to be married to a freeloader. I did say that I would leave if this continued. I don't know how to say that without it being an ultimatum.
I want him to get a job because I want him to live up to his promises. He’s been promising to get full time steady employment for seven years now and all I get is excuses and him telling me to “be patient” (among a mountain of other manipulative tactics). He throws out just enough crumbs to keep me around. I’m getting nothing out of this marriage and I want him to give me something. It’s all about him making a contribution.
My gut says this is another crumb.