I was like your husband when my partner wanted to stop drinking. I wasn't harsh or rude, but I didn't want my drinking buddy to go away. So I would ask permission to drink in front of him. If he wanted to drink, it was ok by me. Of course his drinking would eventually resume after a few days of my selfishness. Now we are doing this together. I hope you can convince your hubby to join you, it will be easier. Of course he has to want to give it up also...