Allport, thanks! I do have a good friend that I talk to regularly that has major time (15 yrs) but.... HE'S A GUY!!! He has basically said to talk to her about this and see where she's coming from. I did notice at this mtg with her - her need to be noticed! When we first got there, a guy I've known for years said "Hi, beautiful" to me. She immediately said, "You didn't say I was beautiful when I walked in..." He said, "Do you have any idea how long I've known Nicki"? She said, "How long do I have to know you before you say that to me"?