HMan,
I'm going to say hi and welcome again. My posts on this board today seem to be going POOF for no apparent reason.
I think the best thing that I ever heard about emotional baggage is that we carry it around as long as we choose to. We are free to set it down whenever we want to.
(And yes JG, that is more wisdom from "Joan of Arcadia". I am growing by leaps and bounds with every new episode.)
Peace,
Gabe