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Uncumfortable and confused is where I sit with this.

I can answer yes to everything on the laundry list except #3 (lie when it would be just as easy to tell the truth) - and the uncomfortable inference I draw from that is that I probably just haven't recognized #3 yet.

The confusion comes from not seeing active alcoholism in my parents. I see grief (my mother over the child they lost before I was born) and codependence (my father always very protective of my mother), but not active alcoholism. The other things which I remember are more isolated or subtle - a pair of memories which suggest that my mother may have been actively drinking when I was 4 or so, a story which my father related after my mother died regarding her apparent anorexia after the lost child (Bobby) died and before I was born, and many memories of my mother telling me how wonderful Bobby was and how much I would have liked him.

James