(((CatsnDogs4Me))) I know what you mean about the crazymaking! It's AWFUL!!!
So let me ask you this, have you attended AlAnon yet? Have you got a sponsor? Whenever you get in your head that you must be crazy or going crazy (because that is what AH is telling you and you start to believe it), you could immediately call your sponsor. They will be the first ones to hear you out and give you a reality check and tell you how very NOT crazy you are. Believe me. It helps SOOOO much to have another person who is outside the situation and well grounded in their codie-recovery to tell you like it is